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Pornography can it kill you :

It's no secret that we live in a pornified culture.  Erotic images seem to be everywhere.  From billboards and magazines to television and the internet, it's difficult to avoid.  Pornography has been around for thousands of years; however, the advent of the Internet has made it more accessible than ever.  Prior to the Internet, if a man wanted to view pornography, he had to go out and search for it.  This usually meant traveling to some seedy part of town and entering an "adult bookstore", hoping that no one would see him entering or exiting the establishment. 

However, with the Internet, that has all changed.  Pornography is just a "click" away.  This easy access to pornography has enabled it to enter areas of life that were once cut off from it.  Obscenity laws once protected children from pornography by banning them from viewing or purchasing it.  Now, anyone who has access to a computer can view pornography.  There are no societal safeguards on the internet.  No one is safe.

Pornography is not just limited to the internet.  We see it in all areas of society.  It's on television, in magazines, catalogs, newspaper ads, popular music, video games, and fashions.  Why is this so?  The answer is simple: Sex Sells!  Because our society is so saturated with erotic images, we have become desensitized to it.  We often just don't see it.  However, pornography does have numerous harmful effects on society.  For children, it introduces them to a world for which they are not yet ready.  They are forced to deal with issues they cannot understand.  It robs them of their innocence. 

For teens and young adults, it leads to a warped sense of love, relationships and sexuality, where it is okay to use another person for one's own sexual pleasure.  It fosters a culture of narcissism.  Pornography has serious implications for marriages too.  It damages the sacred trust between husband and wife.  This deep trust wound is often difficult to heal and many marriages end in divorce due to pornography.  Husbands who use pornography lose the respect of their wives and children.  They cannot be good role models. 

For decades, it was suspected that pornography could be addictive, similar to drugs and alcohol.  New research has provided evidence to prove this assumption.  Because of the easy access to pornography offered by the Internet, thousands of men are becoming addicted.  They are spending hours on surfing the web for porn, at home, at school and at work.  It's costing these men thousands of dollars, their marriages, their careers, and for some, their lives.  Most importantly, it costs them their relationship with God and possibly their eternal salvation.

Unfortunately, society does not see how dangerous pornography is.  Protected by the first amendment, pornographers produce millions of dollars of pornography every year under the guise of "adult entertainment," and the Internet makes it readily available for viewing.  Because of this, men are fooled into thinking that it's just harmless fun.  They fail to see how they can be lulled into a dependence upon it.  They cannot understand why their wives feel so hurt and betrayed when their pornography use is discovered. 
It's only when their pornography use ends up in an extreme consequence, such a divorce, loss of a job, or contracting a sexually transmitted disease that a man may realize that he has a problem with pornography and possibly an addiction.  Although he may be ready to get help, the damage he caused may be irreparable.

Men are called to be the leaders, providers and protectors of their families, communities, parishes and society.  They cannot do this if they are enslaved to anything, including pornography.  Pornography robs men of their true masculinity.  They need to realize how what they believe to be "simple entertainment" can harm them and those they love.  When a man becomes addicted to pornography, it becomes his god.  He starts neglecting his wife, children, career, friends, and even God.  His only goal is to feed the addiction to pornography.

Fortunately, there is hope.  We can protect our families from the harmful effects of pornography.  Those who have a pornography problem/addiction can find help and recover.  However, it starts by educating ourselves on the truth about pornography and its effects.  Those who have a pornography problem or addiction need to have the courage and humility to get help.  There are many therapists and supports group that are ready to help. 

The key is to understand that one cannot resolve a pornography problem or addiction alone.  It requires help from other men who understand the problem.  Men's groups and 12-step groups provide the support and accountability needed to achieve sexual sobriety.  Counseling helps uncover the root causes of pornography use.  By addressing and resolving the root causes, long-term sobriety is much easier to achieve.  Most of all, a strong relationship with God is needed.  Successful recovery requires God's grace.  Ask any successfully recovering porn addict and he will tell you he couldn't have done it without God.

Although it doesn't appear that the amount of pornography in our culture will let up soon, we can win the battle against it.  By educating ourselves and taking appropriate actions, we can protect ourselves and our families against pornography and help those who are addicted find the help they need.

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Peter C. Kleponis, Ph.D. is a Licensed Clinical Therapist and Assistant Director of Comprehensive Counseling Services in West Conshohocken, PA.  He holds an M.A. in Clinical-Counseling Psychology from LaSalle University in Philadelphia, PA and a Ph.D. in General Psychology from Capella University in Minneapolis, MN.  Dr. Kleponis has fourteen years of professional experience working with individuals, couples, families and organizations. 

He specializes in marriage & family therapy, pastoral counseling, men's issues, pornography addiction recovery, and resolving excessive anger. 

 

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Is It Too Late? Peep Shows and Adult Theaters – Do we let them continue?

Is It Too Late?

Peep Shows and Adult Theaters – Do we let them continue?

 

About a year ago my old boss purchased a new store in Delaware County Pennsylvania. He purchased another adult bookstore: If it was only another bookstore perhaps there would not be a problem. I never worked in this new store but I did have to stop there a couple of times. Just like his other stores he has cameras recording everything that goes on in the store. He also watches this over the internet. This past September a Glory Hole suddenly appeared between two of the booths. I wondered how it got there. Evidently so did the police. They made the owner have the hole closed up, so now instead of having a hole the customers just leave the doors open to let other guys know that they are there to have sex. What kind of sex do they have that all depends on who it is and what they want at the time but everything can and does go. The owner of the store has repeatedly stated that he is not responsible for what goes on in the back rooms of his stores. But he likes the money that comes in by letting the guys do what they want and having the clerk keep reminding the customers to keep the money going into the slots.  Last September the police arrested someone in the store for sexual acts but the store is still open and the customers continue to do what they want. Did this arrest make the local news – NO. With all the useless news the local papers print and local media reports, you think they would report this so that the taxpayers would know what goes on in their communities and counties and furthermore what their hard earned tax dollars are going towards. I cannot imagine how the county has allowed this business to operate especially with a residential house right next store and imagine that the kids play in front of their house no more than 5 feet away. I wonder what they have seen or heard. Perhaps the customers have done things in front of them on purpose. Perhaps our local officials should live in a house next to a store that allows these sexual acts to go on.

 

Below I have excerpts from comments from a website that was talking about this store: (The word blank has been put in for words that I cannot print on my site)

 

Posted 9-15-2010

…this place had an undercover cop who arrested a dude who put his BLANK in the hole while the plain clothes cop waited on the other side. He was dragged out in cuffs and displayed outside for awhile. The fat clerk claimed he knew nothing about the hole. Cops follow what is going on on this site so if you plan a hookup beware. So I would be careful if I were you

  

Posted 2-10-2011

Stop by Wed 2/9/11, about 1:5pm, Feed a few bucks in the machine, pulled out my big BLANK, left the door open about 6 inchs. BOOM. Found a married younger guy who went down on his knees, deep throated my thick BLANK several times, begged for my blank and I gave it all to him. I even had him milk it. I’m sure the Nit Ox helped him enjoy it all. I will be back on 3/8/2011.

 

Posted 2-17-2011

Anyone going tonight? Had a great time last week with a hot bbc.

Would like to do it again tonight then hit (store down the street) too. Email me if you are going around 7:30 pm is time.

 

With this going on in the store and being publicized on websites promoting these acts how do they get away with it? These stores are making money off of sex in the public and nothing is ever really done about it. Are brothels now legal in Pennsylvania if so let’s all open these stores. Let’s have one in the middle of the mall.

 

As always ---- It is ALL ABOUT THE MONEY

 

  

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A sex offender (also sexual offender, sex abuser, or sexual abuser)

A sex offender (also sexual offender, sex abuser, or sexual abuser) is a person who has committed a sex crime. What constitutes a sex crime differs by culture and by legal jurisdiction. Most jurisdictions compile their laws into sections such as traffic, assault, sexual, etc. The majority of convicted sex offenders have convictions for crimes of a sexual nature. Some sex offenders have simply violated a law contained in a sexual category. Some of the titles of crimes which usually result in a mandatory sex-offender classification are: second prostitution conviction, sending or receiving obscene content in the form of SMS text messages—sexting, relationships between young adults and teenagers have resulted in corruption of a minor, so long as the age between them is greater than one thousand and sixty days, if any sexual contact was made by the adult to the minor then child molestation has occurred. If sexual conduct occurred, unlawful sexual conduct involving a minor has occurred. Other serious offences are sexual assault, statutory rape, child sexual abuse, rape, sexual imposition, and pandering obscenity. Pandering obscenity offences range from the possession of the book, within the United States, Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure by author John Cleland, to digital child pornography. In our modern world of technology, many jurisdictions are reforming their laws to prevent the over-prosecution of sex offenders and focusing on crimes involving a victim. The term sexual predator is often used to describe a sex offender or any of the Teir offenders, however, only the category just below sexually violent sexual predator is reserved for a severe or repeated sex offender: sexual predator. The Adam Walsh Act (AWA) proposed to provide funding to each jurisdiction which would agree adopt its Act into their law. In the few jurisdictions which did accept this agreement, there are either Tier I, Tier II, or Tier III sex offenders. Individuals convicted of petty crimes not covered by the AWA are still liable to abide by the previous regulations denoting them as a sex offender (or habitual sex offender, sexual predator, sexually violent sexual predator, child-victim offender, etc.)

In the United States, the United Kingdom, and other countries, a convicted sex offender is often required to register with the respective jurisdiction's sex offender registry. In the U.S., registry databases are often open to the public. Sexual offenders are sometimes classified into levels.[1] The highest level offenders generally must register as a sex offender for their entire lives, whereas low-level offenders may only need to register for a limited time.

 

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Do They Make Money? Glory Holes

 

Would you like to know an easy way to make lots of money? I will let you know how many have done this for years and since they still exist it must be legal right?

In many of the Adult Bookstores and novelty shops around the USA there are Glory Holes. These businesses make lots of money from these holes. So how does this work you may be asking yourself. Many of the Adult Stores have backrooms that are dimly lit with peep shows. These peep shows are in small rooms normally the right size for 1 person and they have monitors connected to a computer system and money slots. Titles / movie excerpts scroll across the screen from XXX rated movies and you can select the one or ones you would like to watch. For a couple dollars the title will play for a predetermined amount of time. Ok now comes the problems that this creates. Imagine rows and rows in larger stores or maybe just a few of these rooms in smaller stores. They are lined up one after another side by side similar to bathroom stalls. Men go into these places from all walks of life (Married with or without kids, older, younger even people of the clergy) many of them get worked up and need a little relief while watching these movies. Some of these places have doors on these stalls others have curtains some are wide open. Men go to these places to watch or be watched by others and also will help each other out when the mood is right. Well as if all this is not bad enough now let us bring in the Glory Holes. These are holes that are in the walls so that you can stick your blank thru the walls and have the guy on the other side have some fun with it and never see who it belongs to. Sometimes they will just masturbate or give oral other times the guy on the other side will let them do more by bending over and getting blanked by the guy on the other side. These store owners do not care what goes on in the booths as long as the guys keep the money going in the slots and keeping the peep shows running. Places like this when in a city or near a major highway / thru fare can average $5,000 a week plus per glory hole.

These places get advertised by words of mouth and now with the internet people have created websites to let you know where to go and if you are looking for this in almost every major city in the USA and around the world. The patrons of these stores also go onto these sites and talk about their personal experiences. Below are 2 comments that are directly from one of these sites, I have replaced the word blank in places that have words that I feel should not be in this article:

“They have a new glory hole between booth 4 -5. I personally like the cinema lounge so I can suck and blank for hours, but for that quickie the new glory hole is nice. It is a big one, so plenty of room for big blanks.”

                                                                                                                                                         

“I was only there last Sunday evening and it was fairly busy, I am not sure who the nasty guy you are talking about is, but some guy did say to put money in the machines over a PA. The jobs some of us have. Anyway, I found the glory hole and had a nice time with it. I may go back tonight. The other place is a little weird and all the booths should have glory holes.”

The one guy had the nerve to talk about the guy talking over the PA and his job. If this guy / customer could be normal and meet his sexual partners like others and not behind a glory hole and the guy on the PA boss would not tell the employee to make sure the customers keep the money going in the slots so he can get a paycheck then the guy on the PA wouldn’t have such an odd job.

I wonder if the owners and their family members go behind the hole to give or receive, I bet in some stores they do.

So unfortunately I worked in this industry for 10 years. I do not agree with these stores. Everyday I was there I hated what went on in these backrooms and it disgusts me. Now this does not mean that there should not be a place to sell the books, Magazines and novelties. It is the Back rooms and the seediness that goes on that needs to be stopped.  

So are you out of work and need a new opportunity for paying your bills just open up one of these stores. Get a drill and make some holes and you will be making easy money. As long as you can sleep knowing that diseases are being passed back and forth between your customers and the families they take them home to including their unborn children…Then it is Easy Money

 Story By John S De Santo I

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FBI Announces Initial Operating Capability for Next Generation Identification System

FBI Announces Initial Operating Capability for Next Generation Identification System

Clarksburg, WV March 08, 2011

CLARKSBURG, WV—New technology designed to revolutionize law enforcement’s ability to process fingerprints has reached its initial operating capability, the FBI announced today.

The Next Generation Identification System (NGI), built by Lockheed Martin, delivers an incremental replacement of the FBI’s Integrated Automated Fingerprint Identification System (IAFIS). NGI provides automated fingerprint and latent search capabilities, electronic image storage, and electronic exchange of fingerprints to more than 18,000 law enforcement agencies and other authorized criminal justice partners 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Upon completion, NGI will have the ability to process fingerprint transactions more effectively and accurately.

“The implementation announced today represents a tremendous achievement in enhancing our identification services. Already, we’re seeing how the NGI system is revolutionizing fingerprint identification in support of the FBI’s mission,” said Louis E. Grever, executive assistant director, FBI Science and Technology Branch.

“Lockheed Martin was there supporting the FBI when IAFIS went live in 1999, and we’re thrilled to be here for NGI today,” added Linda Gooden, executive vice president, Lockheed Martin Information Systems and Global Solutions. “Technology like this is a powerful tool when it comes to protecting America’s citizens, and we’re proud to serve as a partner in that mission.”

“While IAFIS has been effective, criminal and terrorist threats have evolved over the past decade. Today’s environment demands faster and more advanced identification capabilities,” said Assistant Director Daniel D. Roberts, FBI Criminal Justice Information Services Division. “NGI represents a quantum leap in fingerprint identification that will help us in solving investigations, preventing crime, and apprehending criminals and terrorists.”

In addition to the new fingerprint identification technology, the NGI program has also delivered Advanced Technology Workstations to the FBI’s fingerprint examiner staff. The workstations include significantly larger display screens with higher resolution and true color support, allowing staff to see more detailed attributes of biometric data for more efficient decision-making.

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